069 罗马书 12章10b 爱中彼此的推让
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- Pic 小孩子：孔融让梨的故事 （父亲给孔融梨，他却给哥哥大的梨，他拿小的梨）
- 孩子说：如果孔融不让梨，他的哥哥们会揍他。他不得已屈服。在他哥哥们的眼里，这是屈服。
- 问：孔融让梨为什么会成为佳话？
- 孩子表达出现实世界。真的有这样笨的人？
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- “V10 …用恭敬的心互相τιμή 礼让【彼此推让】[1]。
- 爱的其中一个方式是，互相推让
- 问：什么叫互相推让？
- 礼让【推让】 = 彼此尊敬、礼貌[2]。
- 问：为什么要推让？
- 爱是先考量别人的益处，为了弟兄的益处我们推让。
- A.p.1 永约教会只有一间厕所给80人使用。
- e.g.刚开始担心一个人若使用30分钟。那么全部人不能使用。
- e.g.在楼下看见一个弟兄，他说他去厕所
- e.g.一个弟兄看见主席要上厕所，马上让他先使用
- 感激你们在主里互相礼让。
- A.p.2 一些弟兄姐妹吃东西时，食物掉在地上。你们都帮忙清理。
- 感谢主你们把教会当成自己的家
- A.p.3 聚会迟到，会造成其它弟兄姐妹们不放便。
- 更重要是，我们敬畏主所以不要迟到。
- 问：如果我们去见总理，我敢迟到吗？
- A.p.4 自己的家中彼此推让。
- 兄弟姐妹之间争吵，因为不愿礼让。
- 夫妻、兄弟姐妹之间的争吵也会减少
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- 推让使我吃亏！
- 有时你推让，人就占你的便宜。
- 吃亏时心里会不平衡。
- 我会告诉主这是我为你付出的
- e.g.如果我被人占便宜。先让他几次，那人还不会学习。以后我就会告诉那弟兄，这样做不对。那人往往就会不好意思，以后就会注意了。（先礼让几次后再讲）
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- 人因有罪是自私的。 极少先想到别人
- 哥林多教会的弟兄姐妹有恩赐，他们缺乏爱,只顾自己的荣耀。
- 保罗同样在哥林多前书，讲完恩赐后吩咐要彼此尊荣(林前12:23-26)，彼此相爱（林前13）
- 保罗提出尊荣的一个方式：
- 体面的肢体要把不体面的肢体, 装饰得体面τιμή
- 林前12:20 但现在肢体虽然很多，身体却只是一个。21 眼睛不能对手说：“我不需要你。”头也不能对脚说：“我不需要你们。”22 相反地，身体上那些似乎比较软弱的肢体，更是不可缺少的。23 我们认为身体上不大体面的部分，就更加要把它装饰得体面τιμή；不大美观的部分，就更加要使它美观。24 我们身体上美观的部分，就不需要这样了。但上帝却这样把身体组成了：格外地把体面加给比较有缺欠的肢体，25 好使肢体能够互相照顾，免得身体上有了分裂。26 如果一个肢体受苦，所有的肢体就一同受苦；如果一个肢体得荣耀，所有的肢体就一同快乐。27 你们就是基督的身体，并且每一个人都是作肢体的。
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- 问：如果花有不体面的部分，你会做什么？
- 问：如果有十个杯子，坏了一个你会做什么？
- 问：如果身体一个肢体不体面，你会怎么办？
- 问：为何花与杯子我们就容易把他们丢弃或剪掉？
- e.g.姐妹们如果你脚有疤痕，你们会如何？ 你们会不顾吗？ 搽药、或者裙子长一点。
- e.g.弟兄如果你有伤口。你会做什么？搽药、包扎。
- 体面的肢体要做工！ 来装饰那不体面的。使到它得体面τιμή
- a.p.但教会中的任何肢体软弱时，我们不是把他们减掉、或不欢迎他们！
- e.g.有一个教会的牧者，他不允许乞丐去他们的教会。
- e.g.给的原因是会影响其它人。 我听了伤心。
- e.g.以前的教会有弟兄，不喜欢从中国来的弟兄姐妹。 我听了伤心。
- 教会本是要接纳，所有像我们一样的罪人！太9:12
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- 林前12:22 …身体上那些似乎比较软弱的肢体，更是不可缺少
- 软弱的肢体，在神眼中是宝贵的！you are precious in Thy sight
- a.p.不是不顾他们, 主要我们学习去照顾装饰他们。
- 健康、强壮。更应该去装饰那软弱的！
- 问：你曾经有没有这种想法，这种人最好换去别的教会？
- e.g.造成教会不和睦最好离开。我悔改！
- 把每一个视为主身体的一部分(林前12:27、弗1:23)。
- 视为主里的一家人（弗2:19）, “手足之爱”V10。
- 盼望：我们离世前，能看见永约教会活出主所吩咐的爱
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- 尊荣τιμή 对方：不是虚伪的去夸奖对方、尊荣、赞美对方。
- 因爱人不可虚伪 V9。
- e.g.我为了讨好人，特意去夸大的夸奖对方，尊荣对方。 我悔改！
- 打从心里去学欣赏那人说真心的话，说真心的赞美。
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- 一个真正谦卑的人，才能去欣赏、尊荣别人
- 腓2:3 …，只要谦卑，看别人比自己强；
- 我们往往只看到人的不好。
- 别人一定有比我们好的地方。值得我们去欣赏的。
- e.g.多看自己妻子的强点。你的妻子就会变成美丽。
- a.p.养成一个属灵的好习惯，多看人的优点。 e.g. 家人、同学、同事、老板、员工。
- 谦卑能使我们懂得如何去尊荣其它人
- 林前10:24 人不要求自己的好处，却要求别人的好处。
- 总结：爱的表现:
- （1）互相礼让【推让】considerations for others
- （2）互相尊荣 Honour others
- （3）为对方着想 concern for others
[1] “In honor preferring one another.” The practical import of this is obvious. But there is a question whether the intent is the same as elsewhere when Paul says, “each counting other better than himself” (Phil. 2:3) or whether the idea is that we are to lead in bestowing honour. That is, the thought can well be that instead of looking and waiting for praise from others we should be foremost in according them honour. We cannot be certain which thought is here present. In either case the exhortation is directed against the conceit by which we assert ourselves above others. The humility commended is not incompatible with the sober judgment commended in verse 3. We are to recognize the gifts God has bestowed upon us and exercise these in the awareness that others do not possess these same gifts and therefore are not qualified to assume the functions or prerogatives which the gifts involve. Humility does not overlook the differentiation that exists in the fellowship of faith nor can it be pleaded as an excuse for indolence. Paul considered himself “less than the least of all saints” (Eph. 3:8) but he did not allow this estimate of himself to keep him from asserting his high prerogatives as an apostle and minister of Christ. Among believers he is the noblest example of what he here commends and of the sobriety of judgment to be exercised “according as God hath dealt to each a measure of faith” (vs. 3).Murray, J
NIV translates a very difficult expression Honor one another above yourselves. The trouble here is that the verb is used in a way that is difficult to find elsewhere, which makes us uncertain of the precise meaning.66 The alternatives appear to be “be eager to show respect for one another” (GNB) and “let each man consider the other worthy of more honor than himself” (TH). Following on the references to love within the Christian family there can be no doubt that Paul is telling the Romans not to push for first place for themselves; they are to seek honor for one another rather than for themselves. At the same time we must bear in mind that he has just condemned the love that is hypocritical (v. 9), so we must beware of interpretations which imply that the gifted believer affirms that the less gifted are superior to himself. Paul is not advocating hypocrisy but humility, and that love which eagerly seeks out and rejoices in and honors the good qualities in other believers Morris, L. .
[2] be eager to show respect for one another” (GNB) and “let each man consider the other worthy of more honor than himself” (TH).
[3] 出20:12 孝敬 honor LXX 使用 τίμα (verb)
[4] What does this mean and how is this possible? Of the many interpretations offered note the following three: a. The other person is the one in whom Christ is mysteriously present for me. Therefore I should honor him above myself.344
Evaluation. Must I assume, then, that Christ is not present in every believer, including even myself? b. Do not wait for others to praise you but be the first to bestow praise whenever this can be done in harmony with the truth.
Evaluation. Though this is excellent advice, is it really what the passage means? Probably not. It seems to require that I regard my fellow-believer to be worthy of greater honor than I am, and that I, therefore, esteem him higher than myself. c. The exhortation does not demand of me that I deem every fellow-member to be in every respect wiser and abler than I am myself. But it asks that in humble-mindedness I count my fellow-member to be better than I am myself. See Phil. 2:3.Hendriksen, W., & Kistemaker, S. J.
[5] (KJV)in honour preferring one another;(ESV) Outdo one another in showing honor; (NIV) Honor one another above yourselves.
[6] preferring one another(KJV, ASV), Outdo one another(ESV,RSV),above yourselves(NIV) (Rom. 12:10 CCV)
Paul exhorts believers to put other believers first as an expression of genuine love. Moo, D. J.